Intern Tina on the Road: Part 3 of 9
So many people out there have distinct personalities. They are either passive or aggressive, creative or analytical, shy or outgoing. I find that I can be all of those listed adjectives at the same time. Well not at the same time, but that my personality can be the extremes of things. I can be either extremely passive or extremely aggressive. The same goes for the other adjectives. So I can’t really find a happy medium. Wrap this all around my other trait that I am a people pleaser and it is a recipe for me being walked all over or me taking charge. Except when “Avoid Confrontation Tina” is around it can be bad news. So how do I confront all of these “shadows”? Well one step at a time. Whichever wants to show up first.
Today: passiveness.
Say Hello to passiveness. One would think that I would be able to take the aggressive side of me to dilute the passiveness. But then that would make life easy.
On the plane, a man was sitting in my seat. The coveted window seat. I sat in the seat next to him. This seat was not comfortable. How do I tell the man that he is in my seat? I literally go over this in my mind for 5 minutes. Old me would have sat in the uncomfortable seat that was not mine because I would be paranoid that confrontation would erupt. I have to do it or I’m stuck in discomfort for 4 hours. I told him that I thought he was in my seat and even went a step further and showed him my ticket. He was very nice about it and moved into his seat. Yes, I was still passive, but success! Baby steps. I see that the upside of alls of this is that I am not always passive. Aggressive Tina hangs out too. So instead of only being one adjective, I can be somewhat flexible in different situations.
Passiveness is sticking around though. My next fear is driving in LA traffic. I am praying that I won’t have to.


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