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Resolution (R)evolution!

Saturday, January 10, 2009
Let's face it – New year's resolutions have become almost farce for many folks: weight loss, quitting a vice, becoming fit, money management, or whatever. We set the same resolutions year after year. And yet, only about 1 in 10 people actually realize their resolutions. What's the deal here? What's up with our lack of resolution resolve?

Resolutions tend to focus on lack or what we don't have AND don't want. So, the energy behind resolutions actually brings us closer to what we don't want. Let's resolve to be done with that. Let's kill resolutions and get on with making real changes and pro-you choices. Here are a couple of ideas to flip old resolutions on their ears and set intentions that will usher in a year filled with more of what you want...

If you're pondering a perennial (or new) aspiration, bottom line it. What's your bottom line here? What is the aspiration actually about? Take weight loss for instance. What will it give you? Energy, confidence, the ability to do all of those things on your bucket list (you know – all those things you want to do before you kick the bucket)? We don't know about you, but 'vitality' speaks to us in a very different way than the numbers on the bathroom scale. Link your aspirations to what's important to you and you'll discover a much deeper motivation.

What if you kept it simple? Pick your word to live by in 2009. Might it be curiosity, love, joy, fun, daring? Whatever it is, let it be your guiding force and the informer of all your choices and creations this year.

What if you intended to be more of what you already are? New age-y psychobabble ring to it aside, give this thought a few moments of consideration. Desire less stress? What if that's your playful, lighthearted spirit wanting more time center stage? So, what if you went ahead and chose to be more YOU?

Who will you be in 2009? Share it with us – with the world – here!

BE Winter!

Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Hey all ... Elissa here for a check-in as I'm peering out my window at the amazing winter wonderland ... well, in the Midwest anyway.

Yep, we have snow and it's definitely going to be a white Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa.

And it makes me wonder: how do you embrace (or avoid?!) the winter season??

Do you hide inside, cowering under the covers? Do you become a winter adventurer / unique as a snowflake / exploring every nook and cranny of a snow drift?

Personally, I like to strap on a pair of skis and fly down a mountain / hill / whatever small slope is available ... but come 5:00? I'm inside, locked up tight, my "day" over and the night has begun. And I'm not a fan.

Buy why? I've been wondering about my dislike of the winter darkness and if said dislike simply exists because I haven't joined it ... I haven't BECOME a part of it.

Think about it: in the summer, it stays oh-so-light for oh-so-long and even when the sun sets, we remain lazily lounging among the crickets and stars until the wee hours -- and then proceed to invite the outside in with our open windows welcoming the breeze as we sleep.

But the darkness of winter? Nope. Once we move past the sun, I move past my interest in the out of doors. When it's 6:00 and it's pitch black, I've always taken that as my cue to be indoors, behind closed curtains, allowing no more of winter/outside to be a part of my experience. Or: No more outside time after dark. Call it an odd, seasonal, residual film from early childhood or what, but this has been my reality for as long as I can remember.

And -- thanks for letting me vent -- I think it's time to reevaluate this rule. I think it's time to question this authority. I think it's time to allow my 34-year-old self a romp in the snow after dark.

What do you think? How do you “become” winter? What are you doing that brings the season into your life fully and freakin' exuberantly??

And: want to join me around 7 tonight for a round of snow angels???

Grrr-attitude: Do it!

Friday, November 14, 2008

This morning, wading through my email, I opened my e>v newsletter that came this week, e>veryday. If you aren't getting the newsletter, click here. (Ok, I opened it earlier this week, but it was so chock full of awesome, I knew I'd have to come back to it again and again.) In it, this month at e>v we are all about the practice and power of gratitude. With the American holiday Thanksgiving right around the corner, we thought we'd get a head start on digging into this thing of beauty.

One idea from e>veryday is to create a gratitude top ten list every morning – even if all you can muster at first is that you're grateful to be actually making a list. It may sound weird, but it honestly changes the whole tone of the day into a space of newness and possibility.

Now stop.
Right here, now.
Back away from the glowing screen, grab your favorite pen that writes so beautifully, and a notebook, napkin or the last thank you card in the box of 12, and write your list.

You'll be so grateful you did.


Don't Forget the Souvenir

Sunday, October 26, 2008
sou·ve·nir 
Pronunciation:\ˈsü-və-ˌnir \
Function:noun 
Etymology:French, literally, act of remembering, from Middle French, from (se) souvenir to remember, from Latin subvenire to come up, come to mindDate:1782 : something that serves as a reminder.  

So you've been out, adventuring. The sun is shining, the air just feels perfect, and today, well today you are forever changed. What are you going to do to about it? What kind of souvenir are you going to find/collect/save and savor? Here are a few thoughts about picking and placing your souvenir. 
  • Grab that digital camera and snap away. Take hundreds of pictures in every angle, in every light. Become your best artist self. Then find and print your favorite photo, frame it and hang it. Put it somewhere you would see it every day. And don't skimp on the frame. YOU are an artist. 
  • When you are eating at a restaurant on vacation, do you ever grab a coaster, a menu or a book of matches - a little freebie to remember your tasty treats and delectable conversations by? Then you think to yourself - hey I could make that tasty dish - so you take a little something (aka the menu) to help you remember to try this at home. Well, its time. Make that meal. I bet you could even look up the meal and find a recipe if you need it. Go on, try it! 
  • What about found objects that come across your path--a penny, a beautiful leaf (fall's a great time for this), a business card, a flyer, or something else entirely. Pick it up and stick whatever it is in your wallet, so when you go looking for a dollar or credit card, you can remember your adventure and connect it with the idea of personal joy and wealth. 
  • What if that souvenir--that thing you want to remember--wasn't a thing at all? What if it was a feeling? A funny phrase? Or...? What will serve as a reminder? What will keep that memory close and at hand? How 'bout a mantra or a word taped to your bathroom mirror? 
  • What about the people you meet on your travels? Is your souvenir a funny story? An accent? A name? An expression? A gesture? 
What have been your favorite and most surprising souvenirs? What are your fun ways to remember? 

On A Dime

Wednesday, October 15, 2008
So I was poking around on facebook today, and a friend of mine posted a question for her status. I'll call my friend Sally. Her status update (a little note that you write to let others know what you are doing) said:
    
    Sally has cabin fever. What can she do that is free?

Well, Sally got me to thinking. I mean I don't know about you, but every time I turn on the radio or TV, someone is trying to convince Sally that she can't afford to do anything, and she needs to stay cooped up! I wanted to shout from the rooftop - Hey! Sally! There is a whole world out there, waiting for you to enjoy. You are the only limitation to your imagination and vacation (stay-cation) Sally.

So here are some ideas Sally, that will jump start your free (or low cost) vay-cay. Get going!
  • There are many museums or public arboretums that are free, or have one day per week that is. Go ahead, find one. And go!
  • In many parts of the country, the seasons are changing, and the colors and foliage is exploding with color. Get outside, and take your camera with you. Try becoming the worlds next great photographer.
  • Visit the library! Often there are readings and other events. If nothing else, take some time to soak up the crazy literature you can find, only in your local library.
  • Take a journey in your own city! Grab a travel guide/book from your own city, and go exploring. And while you are at it, write your thoughts, what you are experiencing. How would you re-write the guide?
  • Check out an asian or greek, or maybe hispanic grocery market. Try to speak their language, shop for dinner, then head home and make a meal. Mmmmm. 
  • Roll the dice. Literally! Whatever number you roll, jump on the bus/train route corresponding to that number, and ride until you arrive somewhere interesting. Then, roll again!
  • Be a tourist in your own city. Go out, ask a "local" where a good place to eat is, or a bar to go to, or perhaps a day trip or coffee house. Engage a local to tell their favorite spots stories. Everyone has them. Then listen, and enjoy the story.

And when you travel my friend, always get a souvenir. 

Next: Souvenir ideas!

Good Question

Sunday, September 21, 2008
I love surprises.  And, last night I got a fun one--with some punch.

We were walking back to the car from The Happy Gnome's Oktoberfest tent, where we had just seen a fantastic show by my favorite close to home band--Pert Near Sandstone.  Well, I was sort of off in my own world, humming to myself, when words stamped in the concrete sidewalk caught my eye. Curious, I stopped to look. I thought it might be a "The sewer/power/phone lines are here." type of message from the city, but it wasn't. It was a poem. A poem?  A poem.  "Well, sheesh," I thought, "You don't see that everyday." (and why not, I wondered) My sidewalk poetry radar now up, I scanned the concrete over the next few blocks...and there were more, here and there along the way...what a find!

Here's my favorite and the one that left the biggest impression (sorry for the pun--and, yes, it being a haiku probably has a lot to do with its elevated status):

Origami bird
You have such long wings to fly
Why do you sit still?

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